The truth is that women don’t really put dudes in the “friendzone.” Men put themselves there, by hiding what they really want. So many of the guys who complain about being “friendzoned” say things like, “I guess I should be an asshole” (it’s all over the profiles of the Nice Guys of OKCupid). But the traits that attract women to guys they think are assholes – namely, honesty and confidence – are good things. If being “nice” involves being indirect and timid, then there are better things to be.
The truth is that women don’t really put dudes in the “friendzone.” Men put themselves there, by hiding what they really want. So many of the guys who complain about being “friendzoned” say things like, “I guess I should be an asshole” (it’s all over the profiles of the Nice Guys of OKCupid). But the traits that attract women to guys they think are assholes – namely, honesty and confidence – are good things. If being “nice” involves being indirect and timid, then there are better things to be.